You know when you go to the beach, mountains, dancing and drinking with your girlfriends, the guys? That’s a ritual, ceremony. It’s a pressure reliever. It helps you feel safe. Ritual helps you feel grounded and safe in the chaos.
Divorce is so painful because routine is changing and you’re losing something that makes you feel safe.
Ritual is a pause. An invitation to take a breath and see things from a new perspective and bring some order and safety into the chaos and unknown. Prayer, comfort, reaching your edges and feeling confident that “although the days are long the years are short” – these ceremonies and rituals dig deep to get to the heart of what is….
What you have been doing so far hasn’t been working.
You are clearly in a some sort of crisis. I’m asking you to slow down a moment, sit, see if we can relieve some of the pressure. Let’s get to a bit of relief. If you’re holding stress and pressure and anger and hopelessness in your body and your energy field, it is affecting how you are reacting with your ex and your kids.
Life won’t magically start working if you do the same things over and over again. Start a journal. It will save your your friendships, your mind and your life. Get it all down on paper so that you can clear it all out and look at your partner with fresh eyes.
Write it all down
- Write it all down. Like, all of it. Really.
- Let it go, burn it, save it… just keep writing.
- Dig deep my beautiful friend.